So I don’t know if you will be able to help me out here but I thought I’d just ask you anyway. Last week I woke up one day and I had this red lump on my penis. It’s on the underside off to the left about as round as the bottom of a pen, it looks a bit like a pimple. There’s a little bit of pain when I touch it but otherwise I don’t notice it until I look at my cock. When I woke up this morning it’s a dark bruised looking colour and I just a little worried. Any ideas?

I’d consult your GP. It could be a lot of things. Good luck x

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I lost my virginity 4 years ago but if I go a few weeks without sex (I don't masturbate either) it will always hurt when my boyfriend enters me first. Is this normal? I mean as we keep going it hurts less and less with every movement but entering just really stings like everything stretching.

You may just have a small vagina (lucky you!). The more and more you have sex, you should get used to it or it may be you’re a little tense. Try using lube, it helps loads and feels great!

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I'm a virgin, and I'm ready to have sex. Is it wrong of me to "lose my virginity" to a guy that I know, but in a no strings attached sort of way? We aren't in love or anything, and he is a virgin too. Any suggestions or advice?

I’d say as long as you’re comfortable with this guy and you’re both happy to go ahead and do it then it’s fine :)

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I was to spice up my sex life a little. We have sex maybe once a week but it's always missionary, lack of foreplay. It's not boring as such as I love my boyfriend but any ideas to switch things up a little?

Firstly: sex positions. Search “Kama Sutra” on Google or “Sex Positions”. I think you’ll find plenty that suit you, depending on your health, flexibility, height, etc. Try and alternate ones you like every now and again to make things a bit more interesting.

As for spicing it up, there are loads of things you can do! Try bringing food into the bedroom (cream, chocolate and fruit are often a fave). How about tying each other up or blindfolding? Give your man a sneaky blow job when he least expects it. Or my fave… bring toys into the bedroom.

Be adventurous and experiment a little ;)

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ive been sleeping with two guys over the last 3 months. i feel awful but the one guy really likes me and the other and i have decided to pursue a relationship. i know i need the break it off with the other but dont know how to go about it. ideas?

You need to break it off with the other guy asap before things get even further down the line. There’s no need to go into detail, as you’re not in a relationship and technically have no immediate responsibilities to this guy, but I’d be as honest as possible or at least tell him there’s another guy you’re interested in, if he’s persistent. 

As for the guy you’re pursuing a relationship with, however, I would be completely honest with him. Relationships should be based on honesty and trust from the get go, in my opinion.

Good luck x

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